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Parenting with Borderline Personality Disorder – Techniques to Help You & Your Children
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Hi, have you perhaps done a video about similar subject but with parent being schizotypal? I am one, and I really would love to listen about it (not having kids yet) Thank you
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Wow. What a great and important and kind video to make. I will share this. Early childhood development and it's affect on a person are things I have researched and studied. I am aware of how important the first five years are. How all of the years are. And as a mother, I understand how challenging parenting can be sometimes.Thank you for making this.
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Youre awesome for supporting bpd
Parents.
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I'd LOVE a video about parenting children who exhibit symptoms of BPD. I hope you will consider this!
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Thankyou so much it's so difficult parenting with my BPD sadly I have wounded my daughter I had little support , Thankyou.
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Thank you for this insightful and positive video. 🙂
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I wish I’d had this video 25 years ago. Your calming tone would have done me a world of good.
I think I did fairly well during her teen years but her early development was so difficult for me and paved her way of viewing me that made my efforts during her teens ineffective. Fortunately, her father and I were/are married and often "tagged" one another when a period of her life was out of our depth – and knowing and acknowledging our own and one another’s strengths and weaknesses was essential. I was permissive, authoritative, but spoiled her terribly and over-apologized as well as over-indulged her. Despite my very best efforts (and making so many of those mistakes you spoke about – poor self-care, trying to be too perfect, etc), we lost her. She told us just a few months before she cut us off that we had been "too perfect as parents" – which was decidedly NOT meant to be a compliment, as I now understand – and then, just over a year ago, she cut us completely out of her life. She married a dangerous man, lied to him about us, and for a few months before and after their wedding, we had to deal with "flying monkeys" while she refuses to speak to us at all.
Now I sit here wishing I had never had her. Although, I have learned and grown a lot in this past year and am doing much better for myself and my marriage. We will celebrate our silver (25th) wedding anniversary next month.
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So true!
The overwhelm makes it difficult.
OMG! The eye contact is huge.
You are a blessing to humanity.
Thank you doctor.
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Thank you so much for being kind to us and just talking instead of judging or spewing vitriol like most channels. When is "Growing Beyond Your BPD" coming out? I'll be first in line.
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My mom was a fcking nut bag to live with so I was pretty much living at a friend's place. I don't care if I see her again really, she added no value to my life. I felt like I was raising her to act more like an adult.
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I would highly recommend baby massaging to help parents connect with their babies. It is a soothing and pleasant experience for both the parent & the baby (best carried out after the baby has had a bath & therefore is quite relaxed usually. Best not to be carried out if the baby is upset after a bath – holding, stroking and speaking soothingly to the baby is better, combined with their feed if it is due) – from my experience as a mother.
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I am so thankful, for all your videos. You have no idea how expensive it is, for this treatment. Thank you
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My ex-husband is borderline/narc. Your generalization of women esp being the one w/ BPD hit me as somewhat discriminatory.
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This was really helpful.
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Dr Fox Thank You for your help. I was raised with a histrionic/narcissistic mom & an enabling father. So far so good. Parenting a 13yo ds w my hb is rough at times. I’m grateful I am nothing like my mother. I tend to get stuck when our ds is quiet or if he just looks “normal” I ask if he’s sad. I’m working on emotional registration & radical acceptance now. All this mindfulness is exhausting at times. I bonded awesome & would like to think I still do. My struggle is putting myself out there to find mom friends. I grew up in a constant double bind. I don’t trust anybody. I had to go no contact. She pushed my boundaries 2X too many. I’m also grieving the sudden passing of my bro. He passed of a heroin od back home. This is hard stuff. Thank you again
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Great!??
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Thank you so much!!!
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I have never had the courage to ever try any groups with my daughter, except for one and I felt even more alone and like a failure than I did before I went. I have also been a lone parent with BPD and PTSD all her life (6 Years). I have struggled so much but have also found tactics of my own to help and survive. She is 6 now and is proving more challenging and the main challenge is her defiance to do as I ask and then when I go to discipline she either has a melt down OR she challenges me and I feel some emotionally confused I cave OR I TRY to give punishment when I'm overwhelmed and near popping.
However, as usual I am always active in finding a solution to help her understand easier and simplify the situation for us both and potentially then making things at home less stressful for us both. I also try to be clear and as open as is appropriate. I believe in saying sorry for things that I get wrong, I frequently remind her that even grown ups get things wrong too. I have at times said the 'because I said so' and I regret it later because usually when I am in a clear state of mind, I almost always try to explain my decisions to her because I believe if a child knows 'why' then they will be more proactive in achieving what we want them to do, as you have said. I also always try to really encourage my angry self to re-connect with her emotionally and physically (hugging her and kissing her) to help re-iterate to her that I love her and that I am having an emotion or reaction to something and that is ok, it is our behaviour that may need checked. This really works and I am already seeing a drastic change in our struggles. she has begun to ask for physical and emotional connection, such as a hug when she is feeling and quite evidently emotionally overloaded. She has begun to 'fall apart' or as I see it have meltdowns. this I know is because I have been unable to harness my feeling of being overwhelmed and then I erupt. She, of course, sees this sometimes and then as you said again, they learn that that is the appropriate way of behaving. This issue is being worked on continuously. I have every faith restored that I can still teach my daughter the appropriate ways of handling our emotions, even if I am still learning myself and that she and I will one day have the relationship and life I have always dreamed of for us both. Thankyou so much, your video literally has just saved this mother from giving up all hope on ever getting better or ever getting anything right. I have passed your channel along to my mother too who is also my main support. The videos about supporting someone with BPD and loving people with BPD all look very promising, I have yet to watch them but I hope they provide her with some tips on how to help and support me in this extremely bumpy and exasperating journey. Thankyou so much, again <3
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I have always loved music, so I found that when my babies cried when they were little, lullabies helped to soothe both them & me!
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Or they attack their child as was in my case.
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