Comments on: Tough Love Parenting Style Used to Handle Badly Behaving Teen Son and Ex-Husband

By: C C

C C — Sat, 04 May 2019 08:03:42 +0000

Omg Deborrah…you are my new best friend…lol!! This video about the 16 year old son is really what I needed today! Going through something very similar and now I'm being shamed by the ex and my son about telling him he needs to stay with his dad indefinitely after he trashed some of my belongings and cussing at me. He tells my 14 year old daughter that he won't ever apologize and said to her, "mom will be begging me to come back in a week". Nope!!

By: AtlantaAngel84

AtlantaAngel84 — Sat, 04 May 2019 08:03:42 +0000

That daddy is creating so much chaos.

By: Shayla Erskine

Shayla Erskine — Sat, 04 May 2019 08:03:42 +0000

That boy is 16 and, like you said, he knows better. He'd be sent to live with his father, by no choice of his. Period! Giving him an ultimatum could actually provoke him into violence, so I wouldn't even give him options. His testosterone and emotions are RAGING at this point in his life as a teenager. It is not safe to have a hostile male, son or not, living in your home as a single and vulnerable woman. Clearly, she's already set herself up to be in a position of vulnerability since her own child even has the audacity to deal with her in such an entitled and disrespectful manner. Its too late, can't change the game in the fourth quarter. He gotta go with his daddy before he gets dangerous.

We are so quick, as a people, to talk about how the children in white families attack or even kill their parents, but this has actually been a huge issue among black people as well. Matricide rates are up in the black community and the number is rising! His ass needs to go. The mother has already done her job. Since the father is proclaiming to the son that she is such a horrible parent, and the son is ok with co-signing, let them be together. Shrugs.

By: V M

V M — Sat, 04 May 2019 08:03:42 +0000

I don't take any crap from males. They can have each other.

By: Jamaican Tay

Jamaican Tay — Sat, 04 May 2019 08:03:42 +0000

If you're not his wife he most likely don't even want u to have his kid(s). It was an accident so let it be an accident. He/she wasn't planned so some female can't be mad if he's not mentally and/or financially there yet. If you know he hardly had money to take care of himself why give him an expensive Lil being? That makes no sense. This is why these dumb hoes have to pay for most of the crap. They love fucking dusty dudes with no careers. They should be mad at themselves. ??

By: TheGirl

TheGirl — Sat, 04 May 2019 08:03:42 +0000

You're gonna be mad at me, lol, but usually teens that act out like this are in emotional pain. They tried to tell a parent about this pain(mom?) and got ignored. I am not saying it's right but a teen won't do this for any reason…

By: Bevelyn Brown

Bevelyn Brown — Sat, 04 May 2019 08:03:42 +0000

Deborah, good advice

By: Bliss Utonium

Bliss Utonium — Sat, 04 May 2019 08:03:42 +0000

I don’t have any children yet, but I’ve noticed many children of single moms tend to romanticize the hell out of the absentee parent. I’ve noticed it moreso within the Black community because my White associates will speak up and let their deadbeat parents have it with a quickness. I can’t say exactly why children do it because my mom divorced when I was young, remarried and did right by us. We knew who was putting in the effort and who was making excuses However, my assumption with kids who do this is that they have misplaced anger and know the least involved parent will minimize their feelings IF they care about their feelings at all. In some cases they may walk out of their lives completely so they know not to complain. I had a coworker with a teenage son who would act as if his father could do a better job even though he was a weedhead felon who couldn’t keep a job longer than 6 months. Lil’ boy thought the grass would be greener and was excited about going to live with his daddy(and grandma) for the school year. He was crying for his mama after a week complaining he had to sleep on a pull out bed, his dad wouldn’t give him money to buy snacks and didn’t cook most nights. When the Jordans came out dad didn’t even entertain the thought of buying them because he needed money for weed and to get back and forth to work. He said his dad would forget important dates and one time forgot to pick him up from school altogether, LOL. My coworker said when her son came home he didn’t complain or act like his father was Superdad and could easily fix any problem with the snap of a finger.

By: Kim H

Kim H — Sat, 04 May 2019 08:03:42 +0000

Been through ALL of that, I was told the children feel safe to be angry with the parent that stayed because they're not going to leave. You are spot on because his father is trying to use this weak tactic for not being accountable himself. She is going to have to put her foot all the way down because of PUNKASS daddy. Thanks MS. Deb

By: Tealicious 587

Tealicious 587 — Sat, 04 May 2019 08:03:42 +0000

Her ex husband sounds like these trolls on YouTube . He is turning the son into him. I would take his advice and not seek child support -I would let the father have custody and let the teen son live with him full time. Teen sons sometimes need to go live with their father because they are now bigger than you and physically stronger than you and they know it and that can cause the mother to be in danger around him . Almost all my friends who had teenage sons sent the son to live with their father once he hits 12 or 13. The father is a piece of s$&@.