Comments on: Peaceful Parenting Help!

By: Lucy'may McIntosh

Lucy'may McIntosh — Mon, 20 Mar 2017 07:04:26 +0000

God, I'm commenting on all your stuff today! I feel EXACTLY the same as you in this video! My daughter Freya has always been so active. and she wants to explore, play and spend time with me. So when it comes to house work, like dishes or cleaning it's impossible. I either have to put her in her highchair for a snack, or her meal and I dot about the house like crazy, unable to eat or drink myself just so she isn't distressed. EIther that or she sits at my feet and cries and says "Mama!" as she holds her hands up to me. Sometimes I'll sing and try and take her mind off it, but sometimes I loose my temper and shout at her. She's only 10 months, and when I see her sweet little face crumple and cry it is the worst feeling in the world!! I just want to be able to keep my cool and be the best parent possible!

By: Kimberly Bak

Kimberly Bak — Mon, 20 Mar 2017 07:04:26 +0000

have you tried to include him in the household chores? (like you wash and he dries the dishes)

By: Patrick Ball

Patrick Ball — Mon, 20 Mar 2017 07:04:26 +0000

For what it's worth, I've discovered there's only one thing that teaches children, and that is your example. If you yell and hit, it doesn't matter why, and it doesn't matter what you say, it ONLY teaches them to yell and hit. …Children don't learn from consequences the way people assume they would. It simply doesn't work.

By: Patrick Ball

Patrick Ball — Mon, 20 Mar 2017 07:04:26 +0000

You can tell that peaceful parenting is the right way, because it's hard! Everything that's worth doing is difficult to do. Anyone who thinks peaceful parenting is the easy- especially when you've been stuck in the house all winter!….
My wife and I use screen time as a straight-up bribe. We developed an app to reward her with screen-time minutes and help us praise her more. She's 4 and responds really well to positive reinforcement, as opposed to no results from yelling and negativity. How has peaceful parenting worked out for you so far?

By: Jakkiikat

Jakkiikat — Mon, 20 Mar 2017 07:04:26 +0000

I know it's been a while since you put this up but would you consider buying a car so you can get out and go to the play groups

By: Kathy Burton

Kathy Burton — Mon, 20 Mar 2017 07:04:26 +0000

Babies love bars!! 🙂 I love that you are using positive guidence/peaceful parenting. I unfortunately don't have babies yet (five years and still trying!) but I have worked with two year olds for the last ten years (with a 1-2 year break due to brain surgery and 2 abdominal surgeries in 2012.) In school/daycare you can't really use time out/yelling and definitely not any type of corporal punishment. Have you tried getting him to help you? like if you are putting up dishes let him put away plastic dishes on the bottom shelves. If you are folding laundry, letting him fold socks, underwear, under shirts. FWIW I think you are doing great! If you need any ideas, please let me know! I like coming up with creative ideas!

By: Erin Boshnyak

Erin Boshnyak — Mon, 20 Mar 2017 07:04:26 +0000

Just thought I would ask now I know a lil more: is peaceful patenting a lot like positive or yes parenting? I was reading up on the latter and I totally plan to do this—it's actually really similar to the way I deal with difficult people at work or if I'm in a disagreement with my husband

By: Megan Rostien

Megan Rostien — Mon, 20 Mar 2017 07:04:26 +0000

Could you post an update video? I struggle so much with getting angry at my kids. I yell, scream, take things away, and spank on the butt but it makes me feel SO horrible so then I end up letting my kids get away with so many things. especially the way I am talked to by them, even after I give attention and try to get down to their level. I want to be more peaceful as a parent, but at the same time I know my 5 year old needs structure. A hint of sternness, especially when she might do something that might hurt her. I want to be taken seriously as a parent and not a pushover but at the same time showing love. So difficult! But yeah, make an update and let me know how it is going, or if there is any particular reading method you recommend. Also you could always tweak a method to your and James needs. When they are young they need to understand boundries, as they get older and can formulate full sentences and really understand the words your saying peaceful parenting might be a more realistic option. You are NOT a bad parent, you're awesome. Do whatever feels right to you and don't go by a guideline or other peoples judgement. Do what feels right for you, and forget everything else. Stay awesome!!! 🙂

By: WutsoevrThngsRLuvly

WutsoevrThngsRLuvly — Mon, 20 Mar 2017 07:04:26 +0000

Thank you soooo much for making this video! I have been feeling so many of the same feelings you expressed and have had nobody to share them with who I thought would care to listen and/or understand. It's just nice to know that I'm not alone…Being a stay at home mom is fairly new for me as well (my son is 15 months old) but we do have two older children (9 and 7 years) and I'm also 26 weeks pregnant now. My hubby and I have always been against hitting or spanking our children and have always tried to stay calm when dealing with them. Our family relocated last year to Atlanta from California. Just about everything is different about my life now. I have no real friends, no transportation during the day for the same reason as you, and very little variation in my daily life at all. I will offer this…as our children have grown older we have had to adjust our parenting philosophy somewhat…and it's different for each child. There is still a lot of guilt and difficulty associated with disciplining our children but as long as we have trained them properly we are learning to trust that at a certain point we have to begin to hold them accountable for the things we have taught them. We have also realized that children just love their parents and want their attention and approval more than anything. No matter how much time you spend, what amazing, mind blowing activities you plan, etc…it will never be enough, they will never be satisfied…they will always look forward to what's next. This can be difficult to keep up with but at some point you have to let yourself off the hook and remember that you are a woman and a wife…you were a woman before your children came and will be one when they leave you to live their own lives, be sure to take care of you so you have something to give to them. Also, speaking from 14 years of marriage, don't give up on Alex as a priority because of your children. Give yourself some slack (mentally and emotionally), you're technically still a new mom and it's the hardest job in the world, especially when it's full time. You don't get a break. What I'm saying may not sound super practical but from watching your videos I can see that you are smart and resourceful, this too shall pass…

By: Molly Sullivan

Molly Sullivan — Mon, 20 Mar 2017 07:04:26 +0000

also, sorry to spam you, but if he's making a mess, then turn clean up into a fun activity. sing the clean up song and give him little tasks, like putting the DVDs back on the shelf. if he is rocking on the chairs, i would let him hurt himself (as long as it doesn't seem extremely dangerous) because him hurting himself will teach him not to rock on the chairs. just try and let him experience his own consequences and turn clean up time into a group activity!