Comments on: Parenting with Borderline Personality Disorder – Techniques to Help You & Your Children

By: N C

N C — Sun, 05 Aug 2018 16:13:47 +0000

Thank you for this insightful and positive video. 🙂

By: Michelle judd

Michelle judd — Sun, 05 Aug 2018 16:13:47 +0000

Thankyou so much it's so difficult parenting with my BPD sadly I have wounded my daughter I had little support , Thankyou.

By: K R

K R — Sun, 05 Aug 2018 16:13:47 +0000

I'd LOVE a video about parenting children who exhibit symptoms of BPD. I hope you will consider this!

By: Sama r

Sama r — Sun, 05 Aug 2018 16:13:47 +0000

Youre awesome for supporting bpd
Parents.

By: Jessica Rose

Jessica Rose — Sun, 05 Aug 2018 16:13:47 +0000

Wow. What a great and important and kind video to make. I will share this. Early childhood development and it's affect on a person are things I have researched and studied. I am aware of how important the first five years are. How all of the years are. And as a mother, I understand how challenging parenting can be sometimes.Thank you for making this.

By: STPD And Me

STPD And Me — Sun, 05 Aug 2018 16:13:47 +0000

Hi, have you perhaps done a video about similar subject but with parent being schizotypal? I am one, and I really would love to listen about it (not having kids yet) Thank you

By: pevitzachast

pevitzachast — Sun, 05 Aug 2018 16:13:46 +0000

Or they attack their child as was in my case.

By: Kimberly Blair

Kimberly Blair — Sun, 05 Aug 2018 16:13:46 +0000

I have always loved music, so I found that when my babies cried when they were little, lullabies helped to soothe both them & me!

By: Anna Varetto

Anna Varetto — Sun, 05 Aug 2018 16:13:46 +0000

I have never had the courage to ever try any groups with my daughter, except for one and I felt even more alone and like a failure than I did before I went. I have also been a lone parent with BPD and PTSD all her life (6 Years). I have struggled so much but have also found tactics of my own to help and survive. She is 6 now and is proving more challenging and the main challenge is her defiance to do as I ask and then when I go to discipline she either has a melt down OR she challenges me and I feel some emotionally confused I cave OR I TRY to give punishment when I'm overwhelmed and near popping.
However, as usual I am always active in finding a solution to help her understand easier and simplify the situation for us both and potentially then making things at home less stressful for us both. I also try to be clear and as open as is appropriate. I believe in saying sorry for things that I get wrong, I frequently remind her that even grown ups get things wrong too. I have at times said the 'because I said so' and I regret it later because usually when I am in a clear state of mind, I almost always try to explain my decisions to her because I believe if a child knows 'why' then they will be more proactive in achieving what we want them to do, as you have said. I also always try to really encourage my angry self to re-connect with her emotionally and physically (hugging her and kissing her) to help re-iterate to her that I love her and that I am having an emotion or reaction to something and that is ok, it is our behaviour that may need checked. This really works and I am already seeing a drastic change in our struggles. she has begun to ask for physical and emotional connection, such as a hug when she is feeling and quite evidently emotionally overloaded. She has begun to 'fall apart' or as I see it have meltdowns. this I know is because I have been unable to harness my feeling of being overwhelmed and then I erupt. She, of course, sees this sometimes and then as you said again, they learn that that is the appropriate way of behaving. This issue is being worked on continuously. I have every faith restored that I can still teach my daughter the appropriate ways of handling our emotions, even if I am still learning myself and that she and I will one day have the relationship and life I have always dreamed of for us both. Thankyou so much, your video literally has just saved this mother from giving up all hope on ever getting better or ever getting anything right. I have passed your channel along to my mother too who is also my main support. The videos about supporting someone with BPD and loving people with BPD all look very promising, I have yet to watch them but I hope they provide her with some tips on how to help and support me in this extremely bumpy and exasperating journey. Thankyou so much, again <3

By: Stephanie Michelle

Stephanie Michelle — Sun, 05 Aug 2018 16:13:46 +0000

Thank you so much!!!