Comments on: Introduction to Peaceful Parenting | Eric Bandholz

By: James Miller

James Miller — Sat, 22 Dec 2018 23:31:15 +0000

Hi Erik, I like where you're going with your parenting philosophy. My oldest children will turn 12 this year, and I wish I had been thinking more like you are, twelve years ago. My children would be more confident. I've never heard of Peaceful Parenting but will check it out. The world would be much better with active fathers, who consider their child's perspective as they guide their children to adulthood. I've been learning about Circle of Security Parenting and find it very interesting. It may be helpful, as you embark on the great adventure of Fatherhood. I am not sure if there is a website. I've not googled it. My wife shared C.O.S parenting with me and we've a book. Thank you for sharing this video. You took a risk by sharing your thought about parenting, which can be a fiery topic. I wish you the greatest happiness with your new daughter.

By: Chris Sro

Chris Sro — Sat, 22 Dec 2018 23:31:15 +0000

I totally disagree. I have a 2 yr old, and there is no way she would understand reason and or logic. So "educating" a child at her age is not possible with words alone. She has one track mind and its all about me me me me. She knows nothing else but how to be selfish. The only effective way to communicate that she has done wrong is to make her uncomfortable, that way she can associate with what she did, and the consequence of that action. If I were to just talk to her, she would not put anything together, she'd be like "yea yea, let me get back to my toys." I'll tell you from experience, that once time I touched the stove when I was little when it was lit, and it burned me. From them on I remembered that if I were to touch the stove again, Im gonna get this gnarly burn that sucked really bad. The stove didnt get down on my level and explain that it should have burned me, because fire is hot, but because it wants to be peaceful and not create a hostile relationship between it and me that its just gonna talk me through why I shouldn't touch fire. No, it burned the hell out of me.
So Im going to say that I wholeheartedly disagree with this video. But I also believe that spanking and or discipline should be done in the correct state of mine. Never done in anger. Only done in love, with an explanation of why the discipline is happening, with reconciliation immediately after.
Im sorry Eric, I enjoy your products very much, and also appreciate most of your videos. I think your a pioneer for this culture, but I just don't think this method can be effective.

By: Christina Vance

Christina Vance — Sat, 22 Dec 2018 23:31:15 +0000

Thank you for this video! I totally agree with you. I am learning about peaceful parenting have started our approach at pare ring with this intent!!!!

By: CaptRickman

CaptRickman — Sat, 22 Dec 2018 23:31:15 +0000

I believe discipline is a vital part of parenting, its how children learn the difference between right and wrong. If a child dose something wrong and there is no consequence then there's no reason why they should'nt do it again, however if they do something wrong and are punished for it then they wont want to do it again because they will know that its wrong. My kids are 6 and 2

By: Stan Vanalstine

Stan Vanalstine — Sat, 22 Dec 2018 23:31:15 +0000

So what you are saying is "Spare the rod and spoil the children"? Kids who act up should have some type of consequence (grounding or no TV) to it or they will eventually disrespect you in the end. I am not saying to beat them but there should be consequences to their actions for how else will they learn when they do bad.

By: Katelyn and Tyler McClellan

Katelyn and Tyler McClellan — Sat, 22 Dec 2018 23:31:15 +0000

i love this idea! i'm not a parent, but if i ever become one, i'll remember this.

By: Eric Deitrich

Eric Deitrich — Sat, 22 Dec 2018 23:31:15 +0000

I was raised by amazing parents who encouraged me (still do- and I'm 40) to live out my dreams. But discipline was part of growing up- not abuse. My parents weren't my "homies"- they guided me, encouraged me, and when I purposely, and with malice, went against the rules of the house- I was disciplined. Had they let me walk all over them, cuss at them, and disrespect the home they worked hard for, I would probably have carried that attitude to my peers, jobs, and future intimate relationships.

They didn't have to discipline me much because in my most formative years as a child, I learned not to slap my sister because I knew being slapped on the bum hurt. Not abuse, discipline.

My sister is having problems with a group of neighborhood kids not respecting her home, ignoring her house rules (clean up after you leave a mess of food- come on!), and not being able to take "no" for an answer. They're all brats...and it just so happens these brats have parents who are trying to sell her on "Peaceful Parenting"...So- these will be the kids who will show up 2 hours late for the first day of work, and expect a raise, a company car, and a bonus for showing up on time.

Discipline works when it's done without malice. By the way- my parents- they performed peaceful parenting- and gave me the gift of discipline. Beard on!

By: Flame James

Flame James — Sat, 22 Dec 2018 23:31:15 +0000

I like this vid and I don't even have kids! Lol

By: So Crates

So Crates — Sat, 22 Dec 2018 23:31:15 +0000

Beard or no go. If you want variety, great! It's called a personal vlog channel. If thats the direction you wanna go then your channel should be branded as such.

By: Timothy Gallagher

Timothy Gallagher — Sat, 22 Dec 2018 23:31:15 +0000

(( Erik… you do have 'honorable' intentions.)) HOWEVER don't take my experience the wrong way !!! Don't Underestimate 'bad influences' from Relatives or the Neighbors — The most important thing is TRUST !!! There is a 'seven' year old that had been given MOST AWFUL advice in stopping an argument by USING A CIGAR CUTTER against their own peers and adults !!! KIDS will absolutely try to do good in the eyes of their ADULT CARETAKERS… and the little girl is quite 'proud' of doing this, she got expelled from Elementary School. * Sometimes it's more about THIS that visits a PARENT — Therapy is important for certain reasons ! 🙂