Comments on: How A Messed Up Childhood Affects You In Adulthood

By: NorthSouthGaming !

NorthSouthGaming ! — Wed, 01 May 2019 07:58:45 +0000

I think about the meaning of it all. Why God allowed me and siblings to experience what we did. I can only speak for myself but I've been blessed with self awareness I guess. Perhaps a good childhood was not meant for me, in fact the opposite…maybe God made me endure those tough times to someday be able to NOT repeat those mistakes, to understand the GIFT of giving a child a good peaceful childhood where I did not have one. To break the cycle in one fell swoop. To try my best to not repeat the mistakes of my father, to fight the very nature and nurture influences that jockey to control my behaviours. I try to do that with my son now…sometimes I fall short where I don't have a positive example to draw from. But I firmly believe that abused children true calling is to care for another child like they wanted to be cared for.

By: Israel T

Israel T — Wed, 01 May 2019 07:58:45 +0000

Abandon the past

By: Mac Smith

Mac Smith — Wed, 01 May 2019 07:58:45 +0000

I'm super messed up. Self hatred is just below the surface. My mom had a bad childhood and wanted a perfect life when she was an adult and she made me miserable comparing me to girls she liked and approved of. She still asks about her favorites which is her way of reminding me they're better. I'm 50 and she's 81. This never goes away. "I hate you" and "You're a great disappointment to me" are the loudest in my mind. Her excuse was she wasn't physically abusive so she's rationalized her behavior. Thank God my dad is a higher level person. Levels it off some.

By: Anis Aasaf

Anis Aasaf — Wed, 01 May 2019 07:58:45 +0000

Wow.. here is a living example of the last kind ??

By: What's My Name

What's My Name — Wed, 01 May 2019 07:58:45 +0000

I like the art. ?

0:32 reminds me of this video I watched earlier ..
https://youtu.be/i2Hw3m8k6PA

Sunsets are pretty. ??

By: Kim Zastrow

Kim Zastrow — Wed, 01 May 2019 07:58:45 +0000

Thank your country for that one and humanity

By: Alan Roberts

Alan Roberts — Wed, 01 May 2019 07:58:45 +0000

Studies with twins and close brothers and sisters show a much larger genetic cause. Twins brought up in the same environment usually differ in sometimes very fundamental ways many of the ways that he talks about at the beginning. one twin might be assertive one might be passive and on and on and on.

By: Aamenah Khurram

Aamenah Khurram — Wed, 01 May 2019 07:58:45 +0000

I adopted a clown persona to be able to keep my parents engaged, when they frankly did not seem to care or even want me around. My sisters (I am the second of three girls) were louder than me and braver than me, but I would too get punished for any of their misdemeanors. I became very conflict avoidant, a people-pleaser, the class clown. I do not think I am capable of romantic love because of the toxic marriage my parents made no attempt to hide from us. My parents (sufferers of mental illness – bipolar disorder (dad), anxiety and depression (mom), undiagnosed for most of my childhood) projected anything and everything they felt onto the blankest slate in the house (me), this was verbal, emotional, and physical. I am now in university in a different country, and i can feel these traits of mine bleeding away the farther I am away from them. I have learnt that i am not here to entertain anybody, and that it is okay to ask for help because people will listen, and that it is okay to not know something because that doesn't mean that I am stupid and deserve to be punished. I was lucky enough to make friends who had gone through the same neglect and abuse I did, and we have a support group of sorts, propping each other up and talking each other down from whatever rut or self-hate we are going through. After being away for nine months, I have to go back to my country for the summer, and i am dreading being treated like dirt again, and there is nothing I can do except try to remember the adult I am now. it is never easy, because being in front of them, i feel 4 years old again and they aren't listening and are hurting me and there is nothing i can do.

By: robraver

robraver — Wed, 01 May 2019 07:58:45 +0000

its easy to cast the blame onto our parents, but then what childhood did they have? Mine did thier very best to provide. The only thing I would like to have been a bit different was not being pressured about school exam results. I never felt good enough (got bullied a lot too which didnt help…and no, I dont keep resenting that…there is no point) when the truth is…is that if you are prepared to work, and have a good organized mind you will make something of your life. Constant arguments were another feature, they could go on for days and days. Very tiring and brought nothing but a sour mood to the house. Its better to divorce if you really cant live without fighting each other in words. I am still not married, and cant be bothered with it now…is that thier fault? dunno….its just part of this very screwed up world.

By: maplegingko

maplegingko — Wed, 01 May 2019 07:58:45 +0000

The bs continues decades into adulthood