Comments on: Dan Siegel: "Presence, Parenting, and the Planet" | Talks at Google

By: Eddie Kianana2014

Eddie Kianana2014 — Tue, 17 Sep 2019 16:06:10 +0000

These information has limited value, all of these experts have accumulated a lot of knowledge through their studies and through their experiences with their patients, but in their own life they have sane problems as rest of us. These experts go to the field of therapy and psychology is because of their own childhood trauma, what is missing from all these experts understanding is that, they do see that lack of Love and affection is the cause of all human traumas, pain, lack of understanding, therefore broken confused relationship. We talk about love, but for us love has become just word, we repeated as word is the thing. So what these experts trying to do is that they are trying to come up with some tools so we can manage raising child with less damage, but if we have love in heart, and we are not selfish, then our actions will be right almost all the time. There is no way a confused and damaged conditioned mind, which is full of problems can solve these problems, but what these experts offer us is the best thing people have, at least they are exposing our problems and challenges.

By: rossana echevarria

rossana echevarria — Tue, 17 Sep 2019 16:06:10 +0000

So good! Thank you very much!

By: ThePrincesscas

ThePrincesscas — Tue, 17 Sep 2019 16:06:10 +0000

While I appreciate Dr. Siegel's literature, and research, there are elements of this video that don't sit well. Others have commented on the hyper-focus of the environmentalism, which I don't disagree with, it just seemed out of place and very much like a marketing gimmick. The illustration and explanation that was the least accurate and helpful from my perspective was the "bath time" example. First, young children need more than verbal directions and time warnings to follow through with adult directions that are 100% adult driven and motivated by the adult's desire to complete a task. Secondly, children are not responsible for our responses, reactions, or feelings EVER. If you're about to "flip your lid" it's YOUR responsibility to get back to a regulated state regardless of what your children are doing. When asked for an explanation of what "should" have been done and said in this example it "should" look something more like: "It's time to get out of the bath. I know you're having so much fun, and now it's time to move on to the next task. Can you get out by yourself, or would you like help?" If the children continue to resist, you move along calmly and respectfully, "You don't want to get out. I hear you. It's time. I'm going to pick you up and take you to get your pajamas on." Or you can make it playful, turn it into a game of some kind. At no time should an adult say, "I'm going to flip my lid, you need to do X in order to prevent that from happening." It's healthy to share our emotional state so we can model self-regulation and soothing techniques - "I'm starting to feel frustrated/angry/overwhelmed so I'm going to take a break to calm down. I'll be back in 5 minutes."

By: Irene V.

Irene V. — Tue, 17 Sep 2019 16:06:10 +0000

Has taken me almost 16 – 18 years of their life to minimize the flippin because of developmental trauma, do the other things that I did do get nullified? What to do now that they are 18 & +?

By: Eric Hanly

Eric Hanly — Tue, 17 Sep 2019 16:06:10 +0000

Telling kids that " we have about a dozen years..." (21:45) is child abuse. It's no wonder so many kids are messed up in the head when this crap keeps getting crammed down their throats. They're feeling "unbelievable terror" because of people like you, Dan.

By: Seloha

Seloha — Tue, 17 Sep 2019 16:06:10 +0000

I am pretty sure I didn't subscribe to these Fucks!

By: Letters to Daughters

Letters to Daughters — Tue, 17 Sep 2019 16:06:10 +0000

Very insightful! I agree. The greatest use of one’s life is love. The greatest expression of love is time (i.e. time spent with others, being present in their moments).

By: the grinch

the grinch — Tue, 17 Sep 2019 16:06:10 +0000

Does this dude even have kids

By: Angelina Cruz

Angelina Cruz — Tue, 17 Sep 2019 16:06:10 +0000

Healthy body, healthy mind, means living in a healthy and clean environment.

By: Angelina Cruz

Angelina Cruz — Tue, 17 Sep 2019 16:06:10 +0000

Paths are a a subject to external conditions and constraints.