Comments on: Co vs Parallel Parenting

By: hitman hit

hitman hit — Tue, 28 May 2019 09:37:34 +0000

Parallel parenting isnt just because your ex is a narcissist.

When the ex wont respect boundaries in your life you have to adjust youre co parenting a bit

By: Chester Sykes

Chester Sykes — Tue, 28 May 2019 09:37:34 +0000

One option is to be the bigger person and remove yourself from your kid's lives. It sounds sacrificial, but the kid's don't need constant conflict, they deserve peace and stability. Kids can get by with a single parent and prosper. Be sure to maintain your financial obligations. Pick up the pieces later when your kids are no longer living with the other parent. Best option if the other parent is a narcissist. Put the kids first.

By: Cynthia Hale

Cynthia Hale — Tue, 28 May 2019 09:37:34 +0000

Absolutely.

By: Angela Marchbanks

Angela Marchbanks — Tue, 28 May 2019 09:37:34 +0000

I cannot love this post more! Thank you for the clarity of information, it helps to know I'm not insane. 🙂

By: josephine Young

josephine Young — Tue, 28 May 2019 09:37:34 +0000

Amazing video!

By: Kristi Reed

Kristi Reed — Tue, 28 May 2019 09:37:34 +0000

Dang, I sure wish we would have found these videos a few years ago. They are therapeutic, but now I feel like I could almost make them myself. Thanks, they do help reinforce that we are now on the right track and they give a few new ideas. Our situation is that my husband's ex is married to woman with these extreme narcissistic behaviors. I can't figure out if his ex is an enabler (flying monkey) or a covert narcissist. My college-aged stepdaughter moved out of their house and in with us, when not at college, a year ago, and she finally just decided to go no contact with that stepmother. That woman's own daughters moved out of their house and in with their dad a few months ago–so far no contact for them too. We have gotten to know the dad because of our shared situation, and we support each other in our pain.The hard part is that my high school-aged, mild-mannered stepson is still there with this lovely couple by himself. We only have him every other weekend and one night every other week. My husband trusted his ex that he'd get much more time with his kids. We have my stepson in therapy, but we have no idea if it has been beneficial to him. This started in 2013, and we can at least be thankful that his children weren't little children at the time of the divorce. My dad had some narcissistic traits, but this has been more than shocking to me. It felt good to vent here. Thanks again for taking the time to make these videos.

By: Kho

Kho — Tue, 28 May 2019 09:37:34 +0000

Lawyer brought up the term "parallel parenting" and I didn't know what it was… Watched your video and It all makes sense now. Ex has narcissistic behaviours and is trying to control everything! Just subscribed and looking forward to more of your videos regardless separation! Thanks so much for your videos… They are really helpful to me and I'm sure for many more "future viewers" in this difficult situation.

By: Kenneth Martin

Kenneth Martin — Tue, 28 May 2019 09:37:34 +0000

Wow what a eye opening concept I have been dealing with my extremely toxic ex for 9 year and a lot court orders and Co parenting meetings trying to go her to follow the parenting plan. The parallel parenting makes all the sense in the world thank you for opening my eyes to this concept. Thanks you soon much Sharing your stories and information this very help me.

By: Lotus Flower

Lotus Flower — Tue, 28 May 2019 09:37:34 +0000

It’s impossible to coparent with a narcissist, I tried on several occasions to be friendly to make things pleasant for the kids, only to get verbally abused, limiting contact is the only solution. If I disagree on something concerning the kids eg, them not going to a parade while vomiting and having diarrhea, he went into a rage, cussing me in front of the kids and calling me a b*tch on social media, another tactic he would use, is sending me consent messages or videos to convince me otherwise at any hour, I will check my phone and there will be messages that he sent 3am in the morning, it can be very stressful but trying to keep it together for my kids gives me the strength to move forward.

By: Liberation

Liberation — Tue, 28 May 2019 09:37:34 +0000

Thank you excellent. I never really did know what Parallel Parenting was. Even though I've been doing it for six years. The funny thing is I find that our children are more mature because they've had to deal with more struggles in life then their friends. I do not find that they are emotionally held back rather are growing up too fast. Thank you again Duane!